Mamma dont judge

Arav my baby.... my little baby... even though he is showing sings of being a very independent toddler.....but at 21 months old i think he still qualifies as my baby....ofcourse i would think of him as that even when he is 21 years old....but thats a different topic....so its natural for me to feel protective towards him.....now i like to think of myself as a very non-judgemental person....i dont usually take sides n dont have specific slots i categorize people in.....

so when i saw the other day someone making their judgement on Arav it bothered me..... no i think it hurt me..... to see my little baby being called a bully....im not disagreeing with the mother....her observation let her to conclude this......I'm very concerned about the aggression that Arav shows around other kids....im trying different approaches....reading books talking to mothers....but not making much success....but what hurts me that she judged Arav on that one action.....She remembers him as the kid who pushed her kid.....will it matter to her that at home when he plays with his soft toys he pretends to share them with her son....or when he sees his pic on the computer he leaps out to hug him.....the whole is judged on the basis of the part....i'm in no way justifying Aravs behaviour....but my protective instinct just went overboard when i read her opinion....i had this overwhelming urge to put Arav back in my womb just so no one can judge him....

and in that instance i could see the future....as he leaves the security of his home n ventures out in the world of playschools and schools n college n so on....he will be judged by teachers and fellow students and their mothers....it wouldnt matter to the teacher that the boy who cant color in the lines is actually the most kind hearted boy.....or the one who pays little attention in chemistry loves his music....no matter what style of education we choose he will be graded, evaluated, compared and judged.....it starts right at the birth....the doctors chart the baby's height, weight, size of head against the normal and then tell u whether your baby is in the top 10 or bottom 10 percentile....i dreaded this so much that i have till date never turned to the last page in his doctors file where his progress has been grudgingly charted by the nurse. but it wont be that easy anymore..... i will have to come to terms with this...

When Arav was born someone asked me what u wish for him to become....my only reply was "fiercely free" ... completely independent..... not that he should be oblivious or insenstive to other people's feelings.....just that it should not interfere with his thoughts....no pressure of pleasing someone or following their rights and wrongs....free to be the best of himself....thats what i wish for you my baby....i know its not a practical wish....there will be friends and future love interests and colleagues and bosses....but i just hope you retain your goodness through it all....

till then if the world gets too cruel like it tends to be sometimes you can always run to me.....i promise you my baby i will never judge you