this post zoomed into my head after reading this very honest and brilliant piece written by the super talented Natasha Badhwar http://www.livemint.com/2012/04/26231744/Do-girls-make-you-uncomfortabl.html
I'm currently mothering a 3 year old boy....and entertaining thoughts of making baby no 2. i talk occasionally about it.....but think a lot about it....i would like the next baby to be a girl...all big eyed and curly haired.....i would like to buy the prettiest of dresses for her....it would be a complete family.....but honestly what i would like more than having a girl is having another baby......just the thought of being pregnant and holding a tiny baby is making me all mushy inside.....
but nearly everyone i know has told me that my next-born is going to be a boy.....relatives, their astrologers, random strangers.....the word is that i cannot have a girl....does that make me sad? not really.....what if its true? will i be sad then? i doubt it....If and when I'm holding my new healthy baby in my arms will it really matter to me? No.
Is parenting a boy really that different from parenting a girl? i dont think so....
Scientifically we know how baby boys or girls are born.....but do we really know why? What if there is a purpose behind it? I believe everything that is happening in my life is helping me in my journey to become a better person....Everything is an upgrade.....I'm turning into a better version of me every moment....So the reason i gave birth to a boy and not to a girl is because there is something that i need to learn....there is some part of me which needs healing , reconciliation, upgradation.....which only Arav can provide....
it may also mean that I'm more equipped to raise a boy than a girl....that our parenting combination (mine active husband's dormant) is suitable to raise an honest sensitive independent man (or so i would like to think)
is it pre-written or a freak combination of chromosomes? who knows.....i can only hope that when i'm having my next one God should re-assess my credentials and tathastu on me accordingly......
I'm currently mothering a 3 year old boy....and entertaining thoughts of making baby no 2. i talk occasionally about it.....but think a lot about it....i would like the next baby to be a girl...all big eyed and curly haired.....i would like to buy the prettiest of dresses for her....it would be a complete family.....but honestly what i would like more than having a girl is having another baby......just the thought of being pregnant and holding a tiny baby is making me all mushy inside.....
but nearly everyone i know has told me that my next-born is going to be a boy.....relatives, their astrologers, random strangers.....the word is that i cannot have a girl....does that make me sad? not really.....what if its true? will i be sad then? i doubt it....If and when I'm holding my new healthy baby in my arms will it really matter to me? No.
Is parenting a boy really that different from parenting a girl? i dont think so....
Scientifically we know how baby boys or girls are born.....but do we really know why? What if there is a purpose behind it? I believe everything that is happening in my life is helping me in my journey to become a better person....Everything is an upgrade.....I'm turning into a better version of me every moment....So the reason i gave birth to a boy and not to a girl is because there is something that i need to learn....there is some part of me which needs healing , reconciliation, upgradation.....which only Arav can provide....
it may also mean that I'm more equipped to raise a boy than a girl....that our parenting combination (mine active husband's dormant) is suitable to raise an honest sensitive independent man (or so i would like to think)
is it pre-written or a freak combination of chromosomes? who knows.....i can only hope that when i'm having my next one God should re-assess my credentials and tathastu on me accordingly......
I totally agree with you. There MUST be a purpose. Sometimes we fritter away the gifts we get, we lose our bearings... but if we are willing to step back and look at the larger picture... everything steers us in a direction we had not anticipated.
ReplyDeleteA direction that offers love and learnings.
3 cheers for you. Thank you for sharing this with me. The minute you see your new baby's face, you will know what s/he is going to bring to your life.
love, Natasha